In reality, no one
can run away from disappointments, let-down is one of the inevitabilities of
life as we sourly know it, and surely, there is enough of it to go round. The
question now is, how do we individually cope with disappointment? How strong is
our padding effect when we are faced by subsequent disappointments?
In my study, I
used the term padding effect, using variable X and Y to determine how an
individual absorbs and copes with
grieve/disappointment. Variable X being Pessimist and variable Y being the
In my summation of
both variables, I posited that variable X has higher coping tendency dealing
with disappointment due to low task enthusiasm and low reward expectancy while
in Y, the task interest is likely to be higher because Y anticipates positive
reward even in the hot stare of uncertainty. The power of Can is diminutive in
X and it is often replaced with ‘what if’ because X anticipates potential
failure and as a result resort to aversion and perhaps withdrawal in absence of
persuasion. While failure does not come to mind first for Y because Y does not
evaluate risk and as a result, Y is disappointed by the outcome of actions when
failure comes. We can say X is an object of subjective social reality because
the variable’s illation of the environment is drawn from illogical angle. These
behavioral patterns are adaptive-a function of the brain’s analytical
Now, let’s narrow
it down, counter-productive convictions are basically one of the major
hindrances of achievement. ‘The what if?’ factor. No way can you be determined
to succeed if you are doubtful about the eventual success of your pursuit.
Doubt cuts across all facets of human life. From hustle, to faith, to
relationships; doubt begets stagnation, if not failure. Determination means understanding both
your strengths and your weaknesses — and maximizing one while trying to
minimize the other.
counter-productive convictions is simple. Just think it, just do it. There will
always be two sides of a coin, so just flip it.