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How can social media impact relationships negatively when it’s supposed to promote communication? Social media, such as texting apps, that allow you to communicate one device to another, can lead to many problems. It is proven that when teenagers go on social media they compare themselves to others and it lowers their self esteem. Also, many people use social media to text and have a conversation rather than talk to someone in person. Now that social media is a very popular way to communicate when you send a message to a friend, they may be confused of your tone and misinterpret what you are trying to say. Although, social media is useful for many different reasons, it has negative impacts on relationships for reasons such as lowers self esteem, decreases face to face communication and miscommunication.Social media lowers self esteem especially in teens. An example from the article called “How Social Media Changed Teens Lives Forever” by Ashley Black, Thomas Atseff and Colleen Kaveney states “The rise of social media has granted more opportunities to meet new people and begin relationships, but it also has changed the way teens view themselves and compare each other. Negative posts or comments also can do great damage to a teen’s self-esteem”. “I’ve seen social media lowering a teenager’s self-esteem,” adolescent therapist Kathy Catenacci said. “They can’t escape the constant barrage of negative posts, how they should look, dress and act without being able to escape it for very long.” That quote explains how when teens go on social media it can change the way they see themselves. Teens think they need to appear perfect, when in reality, that’s not the case. They compare themselves too much and should be on social media for fun and not to change who they are. An example of how a relationship can be negative is when teens go on social media people change who they are to look a certain way in others’ eyes. The article called “How Social Is Making Teens Unhappy” by Courtney Rozen states, “The Internet allows teens to develop dual personas: their identity online and their real identity. Not only do teens place a heavy emphasis on how they compare to their peers online, but they also have come to attach their confidence to social media. According to a Common Sense Media research study, more than eight in 10 teens (83 percent) have visited a social networking site, and three out of four teens currently have a profile on a social networking site. While the communication capabilities that social media sites such as Twitter and Facebook provide can be positive, experts cite the social networking trend as detrimental to a healthy teen self-esteem”. This quote shows how when on social media many people can appear differently than they are in person. Many people edit the way they look in a certain way to feel more confident and so that they have better self esteem. Some may change the way they act through words or say things they normally wouldn’t say or do in order to fit in.Instead of having a real life conversation, teens use social media which decreases the amount of face to face conversations they have. In the article “How Teens Lives Changed Forever” by Ashley Black, Thomas Atseff and Colleen Kaveney, Elly Cooper said, “I think it definitely makes in-person relationships harder because of people’s attention given to their phones or devices instead of their boyfriend or girlfriend”. This quote states that social media decreases face to face communication. Teens need to lessen the time they spend on social media and focus on relationships in person. They should know how to communicate with each other without a device in their hands. When it comes to friends and family, teens often act differently from social media since they are used to having a conversation over text. The article called “Docs to Parents: Limit Kids’ Texts, Tweets, Online” by Lindsey Tanner states, “Young people now spend more time with media than they do in school–it is the leading activity for children and teenagers other than sleeping” the policy says. Mark Risinger, 16, of Glenview, Ill, is allowed to use his smartphone and laptop in his room, and says he spends about four hours daily on the Internet doing homework, using Facebook and YouTube and watching movies. He said a two-hour Internet time limit “would be catastrophic” and that kids won’t follow the advice, “they’ll just find a way to get around it”. This quote perfectly states how a teen can act differently with social media. Teens often use a device for more hours than they are at school or sleep at night. Also, when teens use social media, it can cause them not to listen to their parents or find a way to use social media even if they aren’t allowed to. Parents should limit time spent on electronics and it may improve the behavior of their child.When having a conversation over social media it can lead to misinterpreting what the person is trying to say and the tone they are saying it in. The article “How Teens Lives Changed Forever” by Ashley Black, St. Charles East junior Sienna Schulte said, “You also lose a more personable experience because if half of your relationship is over social media, you don’t really know how the other person is reacting, and it may not feel as intimate as other relationships”.Ashley Black says, “Though there may be a greater risk for disconnect in teen relationships over social media, some argue that bonds are more easily initiated and accessible through the online platforms. With this accessibility, teens are able to generate relationships with anyone, regardless of location”. This quote perfectly explains how reading a text message from a friend can be misinterpreted because you don’t know their exact tone but you assume the tone anyway. If they would have talked on a phone or had a conversation in person it would avoid this type of situation from occurring. Another example on how social media is negatively used for relationships is people share too much about their personal relationships. The article “How Teens Lives Changed Forever” by Ashley Black, Thomas Atseff and Colleen Kaveney states, “Relationships are personal and the problems that occur in the relationships don’t need to be broadcasted to everyone. You know?” he said. “It ain’t cool. And it definitely makes you lose trust in people.” This quote perfectly describes many instances in which some people may share too much information. Even though social media is very public, you should never share something you or someone else may be offended or uncomfortable with. Social media can be taken out of context when people use it to hurt someone else by sharing things they may not be comfortable with.Even though many teens around the world use social media every day it impacts us negatively for many reasons. The quotes from the articles give you a keen understanding of how social media impacts relationships. Many times when on social media teens forget how to have a normal conversation. They are so used to waiting to think about what they’re going to say and type it back when they are in a face to face conversation they don’t know how to act or respond. It’s crazy to think that many children can’t have a normal conversation because they grew up talking to others on a device. Some may believe social media is positive for relationships because you can talk to friends and family even when your not together, become closer in your relationships, and know more details about the person. But there are way more negative than positive reasons for relationships through a device. Social media negatively impacts relationships in many different ways; for example, it increases the rate of miscommunication; increases the rate of lower self esteem; and lessens the amount of face to face communications people have.?